Verbal Communication Skills PowerPoint Presentation

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Communication SkillsSeminar Boğazıçı University April 22, 2004 Tom Atkinson

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Seminar Agenda Thursday, April 22: Listening Skills Thursday, May 6: Writing Skills Thursday, May 13: Presentation Skills: Preparation Thursday, May 27? Presentation Skills: Presenting

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Communication Skills Overview Effective communication skills are a critical element in your career and personal lives. We all must use a variety of communication techniques to both understand and be understood.

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Most common ways to communicate Speaking Visual Images Writing Body Language

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Communication Goals

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Critical success factor for life The majority of your perceived ability comes from how you communicate 70% How you communicate it 30% What you know Source: CGAP Direct

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Listening Skills Boğazıçı University April 22, 2004 Tom Atkinson

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Agenda Motivation How to Listen Paraphrasing, Summarizing and Questioning

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Part 1Motivation

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Session Objectives Be able to: Describe reasons that communication fails List strategies to improve communication Paraphrase and summarize conversations Use appropriate questioning techniques

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Listening and Speaking are used a lot…

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… But not taught enough Amount taught

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Listening is needed everywhere… Listening skills form the basis of: Continued learning Teamwork skills Management skills Negotiation skills Emotional intelligence

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… But not practiced effectively 70% of all communication is Misunderstood Misinterpreted Rejected Distorted Not heard Source: CGAP Direct

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Part 2How to Listen

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“Harry always was a poor listener.”

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What if communication were not possible?

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Frustration and Chaos!

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Both children want the orange

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But without good listening, neither gets what they want…

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Communication SENDER RECEIVER Feedback receiver sender Communication is the process of sending and receiving information among people… Source: CGAP Direct

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Messages not delivered due to “distortion” Sender Receiver Feedback Distortion

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What causes distortion? Speaker Language Wordiness Semantics Emotions Inflections Listener Perceptions Preconceived notions/expectations Physical hearing problem Speed of thought Personal interests Emotions Attention span No active listening!

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What do you think about? I have something really important to tell you Maybe I should get a haircut

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30% of you aren’t paying attention right now!

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Clues that you are not listening Are you simply waiting for your turn to talk? Are you thinking about your reply before the other person has finished talking?

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Listening and speaking require energy Listening takes. . . concentration and energy curiosity and open-mindedness analysis and understanding Speaking requires. . . sharp focus logical thinking clear phrasing crisp delivery

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How to be an active listener Set the stage Choose an appropriate physical environment Remove distractions Be open and accessible Maintain relaxed, open posture that shows concentration Ensure mutual understanding Reflect feelings Offer acknowledgements (say “uh-huh”) Paraphrase main ideas Interrupt to clarify Confirm next steps

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How to be an active listener Understand body language Observe position and posturing Make eye contact Consider expression and gestures Suspend judgment Concentrate Keep an open mind Hear the person out Do not react to emotive words

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Active Listening (not!) Behaviors that hinder effective listening Act distracted (look at your watch!) Tell your own story without acknowledging theirs Give no response Invalidate response, be negative Interrupt Criticize Diagnose what was said Give advice/solutions quickly Change the subject Reassure without acknowledgment

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Let’s practice Tell the person next to you about your Research Project

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Tell me your stories Do you feel your partner understood you? What made your partner easy/hard to listen to?

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Part 3Paraphrasing, Summarizing and Questioning

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Techniques to improve listening skills PARAPHRASE Restate what was said in your own words SUMMARIZE Pull together the main points of a speaker QUESTION Challenge speaker to think further, clarifying both your and their understanding

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Practice Paraphrasing Paraphrasing is simply restating what another person has said in your own words. Use phrases such as: In other words… I gather that… If I understand what you are saying… What I hear you saying is… Pardon my interruption, but let me see if I understand you correctly…

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Practice Summarizing Summarizing pulls important ideas, facts or data together. Useful for emphasizing key points and setting the stage for further discussion. The person summarizing must listen carefully in order to organize the information systematically. Try out these summarizing phrases: “If I understand you correctly, your main concerns are…” “These seem to be the key ideas you have expressed… ”

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Two basic types of questions Closed questions: Get a one-word response and inhibit thought. Questions begin with who, when and which Open-ended questions: Invite unique thought, reflection or an explanation. Questions begin with how, what and how come (not why!).

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Practice Questioning Rephrase the following closed questions to make them open-ended: Are you feeling tired? Isn’t it a nice day? Was the last activity useful? Is there anything bothering you? So everything is fine, then?

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Let’s practice Tell the person next to you what you did last weekend

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Questions?

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Feedback Give an assessment of today’s session What did you like most and least? Assess the verbal presentation? Assess the slides? How useful do you think this topic will be for future classes on communications? tom.atkinson@alum.mit.edu